About five million crazy things happened at the MTV Video Music Awardslast night. But one of the craziest?
Watch it for yourself so we can all be on the same page here (minute 3:23 is an important one):
People are losing their MINDS over this speech.
Whether or not Drake and Rihannaareactually dating, everyone has seemedto want them to fall in love and live happily ever after and, in this moment, he finally admitted it! He gave the people what they wanted! He admitted hes in love with her!
I got togo tothe VMAs, and Im not going to lie I may or may not have shed a tear during this moment.
I think most of the audiencedid. It was an intense moment. His love for her was literally palpable in that room.
But shortly after my one tear made its way down my face, I felt well, awkward.
Not just because I cried like an idiot at the VMAs in a room full of celebrities, but because I realized I HATE public declarations of love.
I felt like I had just watched themmake sweet, tender loveright there on stage. It was like they were having this deeply intimate, beautiful moment and, for some weird reason, I, a complete stranger, also happened to be there, along with thousands of others.
Oh, and then there were all of the strangers watching at home on their TVs. And now, the other strangers watching it again and again onthe internet.
Sure,it was Drakeschoice to put himself out there like that. But as a viewer, I couldnt help but feel like I had somehow violated this intimate moment that shouldve been reserved for just thetwo of them.
I also have some major issues with public declarations of love in terms of the person the love is being expressedabout.
Im not friends with Rihanna. I dont know what she normally acts like when men publicly profess their undying love to her, but she seemed pretty to reactpretty awkwardly, if you ask me.
Like, did you notice him go in for a real kiss atthe end of his speech, only to beshutdown with a kiss on the cheek?! Riri forced him tosettle for that weird thing where he nuzzles her neck while she has her hand around him.
I have so many problems with this.
First of all, SHE DIDNT EVEN SAY IT BACK. The whole world seems to be going absolutely nuts over the fact that these two are officially in love, when all that happened was Drake told the world he loved her and she said Thank you.
Of allthe possible awful outcomes oftelling someone you love them, the person responding with thank you is usuallythe worst.
Its what you say to someone when you dont want to hurt their feelings, but youd rather sip on liquid poison than spend the rest of your life with them.
Rihanna is cool and strong. We know this,I mean, shes Rihanna.
But a lot of us would probably feel awkward in her position, suck it up and just say, I love you, too because millions of people are watching, hoping you say it back.
And thats my problem with these public declarations of love.
Youre putting the recipient of your love in an unfairposition in whichthey might say something they dont actually mean, simply because they know everyone is watching.
Gotta hand it to Rihanna for keeping it real. She didntdeliver a fake I love you just because he said it first. But the fact that he put her in that awkward position where she was expected to say itdue to the millions of viewersHOPING she would say it back seems wrong to me.
But, even if we ignore all of the above, heres my BIGGEST problem with what happened last night: Receiving the Video Vanguard Award was supposed to be Rihannasmoment.
It was supposed to be a celebration of her professional triumphs, and Drakewas supposed to honor her as an artist. He totally stole that spotlight from her.
Granted, I would be lying if I said he didnt honor her in his speech. He talked about how great she was as an artist, and about how her authenticity as a person contributed to her greatness. In fact, that was the large majority of his speech.
But then, he made that one comment. He said he was in love with her, and suddenly, the rest of the speech didnt matter.
He knew that waswhat the world wanted to hear, and thats what theyre going to remember about the night Rihanna won the Video Vanguard Award.
Its not going to be about the night she was rewarded for a lifetime of fantastic work. No, its going to be about the night Drake confirmed hes actually in love with Rihanna.
In her acceptance speech, she did her best to make it about the award:
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But the damage is done.
In a few years, well forget about the fact that Rihanna dedicated her Video Vanguard award to her country and to black women everywhere.Instead, well remember it as the night Drake professed his love.